• We all love and crave attention, and it’s natural to get jealous when you witness someone else experience something you really want right in front of your eyes. It’s also easy for us to start feeling insecure and doubtful about ourselves. But, consider this: you are beautiful. There are people out there that I’m sure would gravitate towards you. You may not get you as much attention as your friend, but why is that an issue? That’s her extra blessing. Do you feel some type of way when your friend, let’s say, drives a more expensive car than you do? Or has a higher-paying job? Or is in a relationship while you’re single? Or has parents that are more loving and supportive? The answer is probably not.

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• So instead of focusing on the attention she’s getting and comparing yourself, shift your focus and start thinking about who you would like to give attention to. Sitting around sulking will not do you any good and instead will fuel your jealousy and insecurity, and, most importantly, take away from the fun you might as well be having! Assuming you’re out intermingling, try to include yourself, but if the conversation or whatever the situation is is not inclusive, then look for another person to talk to, or simply leave the conversation and try looking for other people. Distract yourself and try to enjoy. Same advice if you were in a friend group. If there’s a imbalance of energy and it seems to always be about her, then I suggest you look out for less shallow people to surround yourself with. However if the situation was passing, let’s say someone on the street said something to her or started talking to her, then be happy for her blessing and move on, just like you would want her to be happy with yours. And remember, no one is without their struggles.