That mf has been brainwashed, he agrees with everything she says

I think "simp" only comes into play when the love is unrequited. It's one thing if someone's affection is totally one-sided and the other person makes it clear that they don't want anything to do with the person. I think that's more rare.

The far more common, and where "simp" comes into play, is when the object of affection leads the simper on. This happens to lots of guys. I don't know if it's sadism on the part of the woman or just a comfort in having someone fawn over you, or some sort of weird co-dependency, but it happened to me in highschool and I've seen it lots of times like here with Will Smith.

I got a crush on this girl in highschool and she led me on just enough to where I always thought there was a chance. I convinced myself that we'd end up together, that we were best friends, etc. But I always ended up being the proverbial guy holding her purse while she dated over guys. I basically wasted my highschool years on an unrequited infatuation. Eventually I got to fool around with her after making her jealous that I had started dating this other girl, but by then I was way more invested than she was and I think she was just bored so she gave me a chance.

I got voted "best looking" for senior superlative and I remember all my dude classmates laughing about it. Looking back I think all the girls just felt sorry for me because I had been such a simp all through highschool. It's hard when you're in it, to see the situation clearly.

A lot of young (and old) dudes don't know how to interact with women and some women realize the sexual power they wield way earlier than guys realize their own value. And I think a lot of truly nice guys end up getting stuck in an unfair loop that we call "friend zone" where they aren't able to grow. And you can blame it on the selfish woman leading them on, but they are equally culpable for letting it happen.

If you're a young guy reading this and maybe some or all of this sounds familiar to you, you need to take something to heart that I wish I had taken to heart a long time ago. There's a song by Thin Lizzy called "The Boys Are Back In Town" and one of the lyrics is "If she don't wanna know, forget her."

Take that to heart. A good relationship is equivocated. True friendship and partnership is reciprocated. Find yourself a sweet woman who wants to have your babies and who pushes and supports you in becoming a better man. And if she don't wanna know, forget her, and move on. There's billions of women out there.

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