My rationale for why this is happening is that Black women every year in the aggregate exploit the opportunities open to them better than Black men do. They get more college degrees every year, they own more businesses than Black men do…while these positive developments are happening for them, Black men are generally not utilizing opportunities such as college to our maximum benefit. As this goes on, Black women getting more educated and thus having higher and higher incomes, they find that it is lonely at the top so to speak, and they have higher expectations (Black Business Student Association at my uni is 90% women, will they all find an equally educated Black man in a reasonable amount of time?). One tends to get pissed off in that scenario. So in summation, they must be both the primary caregiver to children, and more and more the primary breadwinner in the household, while also dealing with the shocking femicide rates. All the while, society is placing nonBlack men, chiefly white men, as some fake ass cuisine on a golden platter that will likely never force them be the primary breadwinner, or force them to deal with femicide and abuse as much. This message is heavy in the majority white areas, and it’s basically a perpetual spiritual warfare campaign on us. I agree with other commenters that Black men and women who are more marginally attached to other Black people through friendships, business, romance, etc. will more easily fall into this white supremacist lie that all will be fine if you just give up on all other Black men, not just individual Black men.

No need to look at data too. Just think: the Black politicians, activists, business leaders, academics, scientists, and workers who are highlighted more and more in the news these days are women, based on my anecdotal observations. Society sticks us in the background unless we fit a certain stereotype that we can never get rid of. It’s white-supremacist messaging, and we’re all targets to be co-opted.

Zone it all out regardless of where you are in life. If a persons given up on you without even seeing your face or hearing you out, then they were never meant to be in your life anyway.