My grandparents marriage ended the way your friends did, though the other woman wasn’t significantly younger. Did my gramps get shit for cheating? Yep. Did he deserve it? Probably. You want to know what we don’t mention as a family when we mention my grandpa cheated? He was emotionally abused by my grandpa for their entire 25 year marriage. Considering she was still emotionally abusive when I attempted to be her caregiver 30 years later let me be the first person to tell you she 100% deserved to be cheated on.

You don’t know why he cheated completely, you don’t know what his ex was doing at home, and you don’t know why the cheating seemed like a good idea. Not everyone airs all their dirty laundry to their friends.