I’d address the falling out first, if the issue was serious enough to cut ties, that issue should be resolved for the sake of the relationship.

The closest thing I’ve experienced with this is a falling out with my younger brother- but it was specifically because of the fact that he absolutely refuses to help care for our mom.

Says he has no time to see her- been like three years now- but always posting pics from car shows, concerts, bbqs, weekends away etc.

Says he has no $ to help financially- bought land upstate, a trailer, dirt bikes, ATV’s etc.

Haven’t even had a phone call from him since I stopped initiating phone calls 3 years ago.

To me, this is pretty much unforgivable, I have no clue how he’d be able to salvage our relationship at this point- what I do know is that I’ve tried, my other brother and sister have tried, but he doesn’t seem interested in healing things at all.

So, the ball is definitely in his court, but I doubt he’ll even pick it up.