Alright, if you have honestly talked with him about it and still doesn't do it the way you want, maybe he just needs to visually see it. Is it possible for you to find a porn video that shows how you want it? Before my wife and I got married, we were experimenting sexually a little bit and she said she liked it rough but as a guy it's hard to know how rough to be. I didn't want to hurt her. She found a video that portrayed what she wanted, well a couple videos. My wife wants to be pounded, like really pounded. I would have never known to do it as hard as I do if she didn't show me a video. The same with being spanked. She wants to be spanked hard. Like about as hard as I can, but only when she's on top. She doesn't like being spanked hard when doing it doggy style. Also, she showed me a video of a guy pulling a girls hair and choking her a little bit. She doesn't want her head jerked around when her hair is pulled, she just wants me to grab a hand full and pound her. I didn't know she wanted her hair pulled that way so the video helped. Choking is what was the hardest to understand. We had different ideas when it came to choking. I thought she wanted to actually be choked. Well after watching the video, she just wants the appearance of being choked basically. She wants my hand on her neck but doesn't really want me to apply much pressure. Expressing your desires may seem clear in your head but the way your boyfriend interprets them may be different. I'd strongly suggest finding videos that show what you want and maybe introduce one of them at a time. Also you need to explain if you want all of those things in one sex session or if you prefer things to be tried individually. My wife likes to be spanked and pounded at the same time. If I'm really thrusting hard, she doesn't want me to choke her. She says the choking takes away from her being able to enjoy the hard thrusting. Before I forget, if you two venture into some rough sex, please talk about how you want him to handle your tits. I made the mistake of being rough with her tits during a rather rough after session and I hurt my wife a little. In the video we watched together, the guy was basically slapping his partners tits and i thought that was something my wife wanted. While she's ok with being rough with them, she prefers hard groping and slight nipple pinching. My wife has sensitive tits so we had an exploratory sex session one day where we focused on each individual aspect of rough sex and she had me grip her tits and gradually increase the force I was applying until she got to where she wanted it. My wife and I explored really rough sex long before we got married but after about 4 years of dating. Explaining exactly what she wanted was a ton of fun for me. I didn't feel like she was preaching to me about sex. I got to learn how to pleasure her and had a lot of fun doing it. Plus, it opened up a whole new sexual experience for us that I didn't know I really even liked. It takes a lot of time sometimes especially if he's worried about hurting you. The payoff is huge though. Don't give up!