tried repairing the relationship with my mum and she told me it's my fault I'm the way I am cause I didn't talked about being SAed as a 9yo

So my experience is opisate but I will share it as another perspective. Viewing how your mom is responsiding now...possibly if she did hear about it at the time she would of responded this way.. I remember I had that "on the tip of my tongue" feeling with wanting to report being SA. Everything I did afterward I couldn't stop thinking about it. And it was only months after it happened I was 12 and I had gotten kicked out of school for self harm. I couldn't go back till I had a pysch evaluation . So I'm expelled and I turn to my mom in the car one day she's so pissed like I've gotten myself expelled so we aren't talking. And I tell her I'm being molested... she denied me... she questioned my abuser right in front of me.. I began yelling no.. cause I was so uncomfortable. It all came out bad. I've confronted her later in life and I still can see she's just "uncomfortable" with the situation and doesn't wanna answer. Our parents aren't perfect but I do belive In protection. I am a un healed SA survivor. Life is hard. I am holding on tho. And I'm here for you. It's NOT YOUR FAULT for not talking about it. I rember being 12 and swallowing my words I was SO EMBARRASED. 9??? You're a little baby please where is someone to protect you?? You were just a kid. I feel for you be strong.

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