Some comments:
So, I get it: at those ages, the kids are old enough to know that there are winners and there are losers, and it can be sad when they get so close but don't cross the proverbial finish line.
But, your whole premise/goal is flawed. The fact is this: soccer (like many of the things that matter in life) takes time and effort to master. What are you teaching them if you teach them to win without putting in the work? There may be a few who have talent, but even they have to put in their dues. CR and Messi are among the hardest working athletes in the world. I understand that, at lower levels, there are just some kids who "get it" with almost no instruction, and they run circles around everyone. That doesn't change the fact that your kids aren't those kids, and their only option is to work hard and, yes, you do need to know how and what to teach.
Soccer is not action "punctuated by committee meetings". Unlike football and baseball, there's not that much procedure in soccer. There aren't a lot of rules--by that, I mean, if you get the "spirit of the game", you can pretty much guess what 99% of the rules are. What that means is there aren't many ways to win on procedural grounds. To win consistently, you need to win the substantive argument (i.e., your players need to be better soccer players). The lack of procedure/committee meetings also means that coaching effectively stops when the starting whistle blows. You don't get to order up a play in the huddle. You don't get to walk out to the mound and have a chat about with your pitcher about what to throw. Once the whistle blows, all of the decision making is in the hands of your players. They only have fractions of a second to make the right decision and execute. The measure of you as a coach is seen in whether your players exercise good judgment or not.
Finally, I'll sorta apologize for the criticism you're getting. I really do not mean to be so harsh. But I also sorta don't apologize. I don't think I'm speaking only for myself when I say that, here in r/bootroom, you will find only people who love and respect the game. You clearly don't. Let's be fair: when you use the phrase "unconventional", you really mean "anti-soccer". You are pretty much asking us for the best way to piss on the game we love. I mean, it's fine if you don't like soccer. But if that's true, then why are you involved?