I hear ya. I bedshare and tried literally every single thing to get my son to sleep on his own and he would not. I was adamantly against bedsharing when I was pregnant. I am totally sensitive to people who have had bad things come from bedsharing. I knew there were risks but my partner went back to work after a week so I needed sleep to be able to function during the day and be coherent. What bothers me is people saying “oh I would NEVER do that” when they don’t have kids. Go one night where you’re waking up every 5 minutes (literally) to get a newborn (who eats every 30 minutes + while you’re also trying to figure out nursing) to go back to sleep and you’ll change your mind real quick. I don’t go around berating people who have other methods and I understand survivor’s bias but my mental health could not handle not sleeping so that would’ve turned into a whole other issue. I don’t think people who don’t have children have the right to talk down upon people who are literally trying to just fulfill basic needs.

But yeah Alice I guarantee didn’t even try any other method. But now Fern sleeps on the shitty carpet so who cares right? /s