I and my wife.

Born and raised In Africa, came to Pakistan could barely speak Urdu. I always was told I'm Pakistani but never knew Pakistan. Coming to Pakistan for the 1st time was such a power experience that I merely being a child, didn't understand the emotions of smiling and crying that overcame my tiny being. I wasn't too young that I couldn't understand the concept of nationality, and wasn't too old that I could be filled with emotions of frustration of the geo political situations. Sorry I'm digressing. I learned to read write and speak Urdu in Pakistan.

My wife is from India, knows are to read and write Hindi and Punjabi of the Gurmukhi script. She remembered a few Urdu alphabet from when her grand dad used to teach her as they immigrated to India from Pakistan during partition. She wanted to learn it again and ordered a norani Qaida version of Urdu. She learned the alphabet and joining words. The rules for Alif remaining separate and joining, how different Kaafs appear, etc. Learning how to read Arabic was easier for her, then Urdu because Urdu doesn't generally come with vowel markings. After marriage we lived with me Father for a few years. She used to try to read the headlines when news was on. Didn't care how much my parents laughed at her butchering the words. Once we moved out and she started losing interest, I started leaving Urdu written poetry and goofy letters on the fridge. She'd call me during lunch having reviewed and figured out all the writings. So still a work in progress I guess but she speaks read and writes it well enough.

I'll try to find the book she ordered off Amazon. It's pretty neat, explains all the rules and everything.

But honestly, you don't need a book, YouTube vids along with trying to designer words on your own with guidance of others makes a lot of difference.