Ooh I feel you. I am omnisexual and nonbinary, although in a mostly-femme-presenting way, boxed into the mom box, even therapists and school professionals have just called me 'Mom' (which grosses me tf out, I have a name), and I'm also in a hetero marriage to the extent any marriage can be hetero with me queering it up. I get all those passing-privilege, imposter feelings, the sad invisibility and not belonging to the queer community, and not wanting to be in the mom community either because eugh.

I've recently gone on testosterone to feel more like the me in my mind. Idk. It's tough figuring out gender and sexuality for some of us. Part of me envies straightforward hetero cis people for the simplify of confidence in what they like and want. Half my life is behind me and I'm still trying to nail my shit down.

I'm happily married though, so I have that going for me.