I think a lot of this is about communication and maturity. Sometimes we have to be real with ourselves. Maybe it's me, if my husband told me he missed me working out. I wouldn't get sensitive about it but I would tell him he needs to facilitate the process. It does sound like she started letting herself go after marriage. BUT marriage life is more demanding than dating. Did your expectations change after marriage? Did you want more sex? More meals? Do you clean after yourself? Sometimes men don't realize the energy women spend to maintain a nice home. I don't know your situation but I think these things should be talked about. I already told my husband I will be getting a mommie makeover asap after I have the baby. He supports it. Idk I feel in a marriage one should be able to freely discuss these things without having a total meltdown. I do feel some women can be overly sensitive. We are not always attracted to our partners and that's actually ok. It can be worked through. Support your wife, look for meal plans or sign up for a meal delivery service there are so many to choose from, Maybe get some home equipment. Whatever it is, find her needs and help her. What you are experiencing is a part of the ebb and flow of marriage and you can get past it. By the way are you fit and yourself?