this is basically a bragging thread, right? to qualify a bit, we have these patriarchal norms that basically makes women the gatekeepers of sex. this is a pretty shitty narrative that produces a particularly violent and aggressive brand of interaction between men and women. most women play up to these norms (just as most men to theirs) because these are the 'normal' and 'practical' ways for us to get the things we're told we should want (ex sex, love, status, etc). for a lady to ask you out, that means she's breaking with traditional norms to initiate something with you either because 1) she thinks you're more important than norms and/or 2) she's aware of these norms and thinks they're bullshit. in either case, I'm seeing this as a total humblebrag thread that I am more than willing to participate in
the first lady asked me out to coffee like three times but I kept studying each time we were out. she was like a really, really traditionally attractive person. dude friends who hung out with us all told me that she was a total 9/10 (or whatever) but I thought of us as just study buddies. she was cool but I was way too self-conscious to ask her out. oh well.
second lady was also in college. basically got grind attacked by like three girls who were all aggressively going for me on a dancefloor. I had no clue what was going on but one of them ended up at my place. I pulled out a futon mattress for her to sleep on in the living room while I went to sleep in my room. she was really cute and super nice and a little pop punk and apparently was only in town for that night. lolol social anxiety
third lady was at a bar/show with a buddy. I kept trying to set her and my buddy up but she gave me a really, really, really long hug and basically asked me to ask for her number. she was a really pretty indie girl who was doing a piece for the alternative paper up in the city. I had a girlfriend at the time. we were open (just like we are now) but I was feeling lazy and tired. haven't hit her back and that was shitty of me but eh, no biggie
couple of my tinder/OKC matches have been super aggressive about keeping our conversations rolling. I feel like I should probably just unmatch them but it feels rude. I'll probably just tell them that I'm pretty swamped right now. between my girlfriend, my fwb, and my job, it's sort of looking like I won't be able to pursue more than hookups and I'm not that interested in casual sex. not even sure why I'm still on Tinder or OKC at the moment, haha