I hear you. I see ignorance, selfishness and a bully. Dismissing Bayleigh feels like a lack of consideration for who she's talking to and shoving her "goodness" in someone's face. It's hard to comment on the Big T. situation because it's second hand and it isnt something I understand in any context, but if we are focusing on the phrase "not black enough" that sounds like a superiority issue or a bully to me. Like, what does she mean by that? How are you and who are you to measuring anothers "blackness"? I wasnt taking Big Ts story into consideration when I made the comment because I dont understand and again, idk the context, but if any of her comments are racist, I'm more inclined to see that one as racist, although I really see is ignorance. I'd listen to someone explain how her comments to Big T. show she is racist. It's possible there's something I'm not seeing or considering.