Not being sexually compatible because someone has a micropenis and not being sexually compatible because "they suck at topping" are two very different things, as the latter can be taught with the right person.

It's unfortunate that you've had this experience. But your takeaway really should not have been "HAVE SEX ON THE FIRST DATE ALWAYS!" from this experience, which is kind of what you were implying in your previous post, something which I really disagree with. You also kind of showed a little, tiny bit of disdain for people who decide to wait.

It's not that you can't meet a cool boyfriend that turned from a hookup. It's just that you really, really shouldn't sneer at people who "wait 3 dates", and you really shouldn't view it as a waste of time because it's not.

Finally, having a 7 year relationship from 12 to 19 or 13 to 20 is really not the same as having a same relationship from 25 to 32 or 33 to 40. There are SO many things that you don't experience or have to deal with between 13 and 20, as a couple, as partners. So. Many. Things. That's a long ass relationship, but it wasn't a long ass adult relationship.

I entered my relationship as a kid at 21 with another kid at 19. I'm not a kid anymore and it's a completely different beast to maintain the kid portion for a few years than it is to maintain the adult portion where you're worried about finances and actually planning for the future. Things that never mattered before, start to matter way, way, way more than whether or not someone is a good lay. And if you continue down the path of just eliminating people from potential life long partnership because they suck in bed, you might want to take a moment to reexamine your priorities.

In the mean time since you're still kind of young, just have fun and figure it out eventually. Thanks for your input