How is everyone else handling being given outdated baby advice by their parents? My mom and I have been butting heads over this recently and I just don't know what to do.

For example, I was telling her about the crib that we are thinking about purchasing and she offered to buy a crib bumper. When I explained to her that the current advice is not to use a crib bumper (to reduce risk of SIDS/suffocation) and instead use a sleep sack, she adopted the familiar stance of "well, I did x with you and you didn't die." The same thing happened when we discussed that baby should ideally lie on its back to sleep or shouldn't be given water before a certain age.

I've tried explaining to her that this is not an attack on her parenting skills, but just an example of how the recommendations have changed in the almost 30 years since she had me. (I mean, when she was born it was still considered safe for women to drink quite heavily throughout pregnancy - recommendations change for a reason). She doesn't see it that way and instead fights me on everything. It's becoming exhausting and making me not want to discuss anything with her.

Anyone else dealing with this? If so,do you have any tips for how to handle it? Should I just send her links to reputable sources explaining why the recommendations have been changed?