Always document everything. I have a 30 page document of all the emotional abuse narc unleashed on the kids since the split. I don’t confront the narc with any of it, I save it for when/if it’s needed in court.

In my case it wasn’t needed (not yet) as oldest child (scapegoat) emancipated themself about 4 yrs ago stopped seeing narc altogether b/c had had enough of the abuse. I could not be seen to be trying to encourage that the child not see the narc. The child did it completely on their own (with good cause of course). Other child (golden child) kept seeing the narc regularly according to the divorce agreement. That’s how it’s been since 2016, Up until the pandemic when the narc refused all contact with the child/children.