I mean I can empathize with what the person is saying about stress. Towards the end of a previous relationship an ex was getting really distant and she was showing signs of getting tired of the relationship. I knew this because there were certain things that she said early in our relationship about what she started doing when she left her ex. I started making these connections along with the lack of intimacy so I started to panic.

The idea of losing the person I loved more than anything on the planet sent me into some weird breakdown/stress mode. It literally compounded any issues we were having and I pushed her away more. This was on top of all the financial stresses, stress from taking care of her neice, daughter, lack of sleep because she worked late and it wasn't safe for her to ride home that late.

All this stuff compounded and it felt like I was the only one trying to make it work amplified it even more. The real problem is I was struggling with losing control of everything and didn't know how to handle it. I said a lot of ugly things I didn't mean and did a lot of dumb shit I wouldn't do as a rational human being.