And avoident echo chambers are any better?

You guys just tend to not speak up as much and you complain that others are more vocal when you are just scared to talk. So join the discourse but try and meet people with compassion.

I'm sorry you were hurt but acknowledge that your expierence is unique and your own and doesn't apply to all of us. I try really hard to be mindful of my clingy was.

Maybe make your own avoident page so AP people can understand you.

There's a reason a lot of us hate avoident people. Your behavior can often make us much worse. If you ghost for days at a time, avoid responding in a timely manner, or generally hide your feelings you are just as culpable for the relationship going sour.