I think it is more a matter of civility and politeness.

Umm, except he (a term I use advisedly) told me to go and post in bunch of other subs instead. That's not a matter of politeness. That's hatred (aka phobia), discrimination, prejudice, stereotyping and marginalisation. I could say I no longer feel safe, even, if I were a disingenuous scumbag.

He wouldn't have done that if I told him to "fuck off". No, no. I crossed the invisible line between the washed and the impure and I must be excluded from the community of the good.

Because, you know, I'm an instrument of the forces of evil.

Besides, I don't accept that identity is self-determined. Its ontology is largely objective, and can no more be self-assigned at will as an adult, than it can be, in the overwhelming majority of cases, arbitrarily assigned at birth.

But what really bothers me is that merely asserting this rather unremarkable claim gets me sent to the hall of the damned in a way that just bring rude never would.

Just watch, now, as the assembly hounds me out the door.

In this way knowledge and understanding die.