I mean... I guess, whatever gets you going. I have to say this about incels though: I consider myself an incel every now and then despite having slept with over 25 women. There are times I am very depressed, and involuntarily celibate. I realize that my feelings towards women vary greatly, and that I'm more successful in general when I'm kinder BUT IT DOES FEEL RANDOM, as some women are very turned on by unkind guys and I will tell you that accounts for a large percentage of the 25+ women I have slept with. Not over half, but still significant amounts that react to the "Chad dom" douche lol. So, I personally don't hold anything against incels because it can feel random - not to say it justifies sexism at all, but if someone is involuntarily celibate why is that an insult more than calling someone virgin? Shouldn't be really.