I don't know you personally, so I'm dealing with the information that's been provided.
Odds are high that it is because you are trans. I'm not trying to be cruel, and I have no issue with you or anyone else being trans.
But if you are asking for honesty, you need to also be honest with yourself.
Being trans makes most people uncomfortable. Reddit is a very bad representation of how the general public views trans people. You are looking for someone who is very progressive, very open minded, and likely bi/queer themselves.
Many trans people have other mental issues they are fighting. I don't think I've met a trans person yet who is battling anxiety disorders at the very least, and depression is common too. It is taxing to be around for people who are mentally fit, and many people with mental illnesses can't take on someone else's mental issues on top of their own.
Unless you are passing 100% you are attractive to a smaller group of people. You are going to look more masculine than a woman, and more feminine than a man. And even then you'll have the issue of genitalia.
You probably don't want to fuck everyone that wants to fuck you. There are a lot of M4A and people seeking trans folks here - if you are turning people down, then you are doing to them what others are doing to you.
There's reality. I am sorry you are having trouble hooking up, and wish you luck.