I don't know why but everyone seems to forget that Nynaeve tried to drown Elayne in a bucket of water when she was drunk. Like she literally just grabbed Elayne's head and shoved it in a bucket of water while Elayne was almost blackout drunk and didn't let her come up for air. She could have easily killed her and nobody seems put off by it?? Elayne wasn't upset about it but I thought it was crazy and a super awful thing to do. I love Nynaeve as a character but I still have never been able to get over that. I was so shocked reading the scene because it seemed so extreme even for her character. And you're right everyone focuses on those 3 to throw the most hate at.