Opinions on conversation topics

My advice: Openers are bullshit. Stop worrying about it. It's a lot less about having a list of prescripted lines and more about being in the moment and being observant of what's going on around you. Start putting yourself in social situations and just start socializing (talking) with people around. My go-to is there's a few bars around town that I know some of the bar tenders. I would go in before it got busy and start having a few beers AND water to slow down the alcohol consumption. Maybe grab something to snack on too. The bar tender starts recognizing me after a few visits, we start talking, other customers or regulars start talking to the bartender and me, and next thing I know when I walk in people know me and I got people (not just women, but people) talking to me. Now I look like somebody, I have multiple people talking to me, I look socialable, I'm not alone in a corner like a creep, and I'm in the moment naturally using my social skills and naturally meeting women just by people around me introducing me or whatever. I don't have to stress about having a disingenuous line prepared which, by the way, women can smell when you're not being genuine or natural immediately.

/r/datingadviceformen Thread