I agree with a lot of what you're saying, but this isn't women-privileged information. I am a straight male, and I speak very candidly and as (mostly) non-judgmentally as I can about sex between (among?) all types. Many men are aware of the prevalent issues about the treatment of women, and the generalization you're giving is vast and overemotional. It angers me as well to see guys peddle the same tired caveman garbage, but I could make conjecture about women, such as if I said women habitually choose to be in relationships with men who treat them poorly (this is given further evidence by your own empirical data that women have a majority of negative sexual experiences with many men.)

And yeah, I want a sexually open woman with certain conditions. Don't we all? I want a woman who is adventurous and enjoys frequent sex, but not one who has slept with a large amount of men who I don't approve of. I'd be the same as if I had slept with dozens of prostitutes or one-night stands. It has nothing to do with my ego, it has to do with the fact that I just don't feel that being another mark on a woman's list is that much of a turn on, and I'm not that desperate to get laid constantly. This is a similar argument to the one you hear a lot of women make. I don't think these women are sluts, I just think they're too unappreciative of the experience I'd like to be having. I don't think you can make it so black and white as "men need to accept women's 'open sexuality' as they define it or fuck off." I think it's important to just be consistent and remove double standards, which I think you are failing at here (namely attacking men's insecurity while vehemently defending women's).

There's a fine (or perhaps very thick) line between a woman being judged constantly versus her demanding people's opinion of her be consistent with her own self-image.

TL;DR My one differing opinion automatically defeats your tl;dr.