No offense or anything but i can use language in a way that prescribes a different meaning than what you're interpreting. When i call my friend retarded or autistic its meant as an insult sure, but in no way am i personally attacking someone with those traits. I would never use it intentionally to someone who suffers from it but as a human on this earth i'm allowed to use words that may or may not offend you depending on your interpretation of my meaning. The culture around everything being a safe space is actually dangerous to our freedoms of choice. Me insulting my friend has no meret on how you feel, its kind of weird how you become the center of attention when i'm doing so.