u/Bunnygirl9797: I am really sorry that you're going through this.

I hope something I can say will help you.

I've lived my entire life without anything that could be described as a "very sensitive" part of my penis. I have a kind of aura of sensitivity, around the dorsal inner foreskin, sulcus, and coronal ridge. I discovered faint sensation in the (destroyed) frenulum are when I was like 30, but I had to touch it with practically a feather to figure out how to "find" that sensitivity.

For me, the greatest pleasure *isn't* so much in the "touching", it's in the erection, it's the feeling of being hard; I feel it deep down the shaft.

And it's essential for me to think erotic thoughts. This all combines to give me pretty normal orgasms (for a cut guy).

I know our situations are vastly different, but perhaps there's something there that would help you? Particularly the "feeling" of being erect deep in the penis. For me, that's an "exciting" feeling rather than a "sensitive" feeling, but it's still erotic. Perhaps *because* my brain never got a chance to get used to acute and specific sensations, it heightened my awareness of other things?

Hope I'm helping you and not just making you feel worse. :(