It sounds like you’re dependent on her and she’s getting frustrated by it. But if she wants to go to restaurants with you that are two hours away, that’s a good sign.

One thing you can do is an order an Uber to the Safeway. When you’re done shopping, order another one to bring you back. They’re generally reasonably priced. That’s what I do from time to time, when the truck needs attention.

She may feel less put-upon if you stop depending on her for a ride so much. It might make you feel better, too, about being a little more able to control your own life. Monthly gas and insurance can buy quite a few Uber trips.

After tensions ease, you might be able to get to the bigger issues. Some of the respect issues may be from being too close and too dependent on each other.