Haha yeah, the whole time I read your original post, I was laughing to myself thinking how this only works on the assumption that parents have a healthy attitude about sex.

My mom raised me on a great deal of toxic information. I remember being as young as 6 and her telling me about rapes she and other family members had experienced, including the repeated beating and raping of one of my great grandmas by her husband, and a gangrape that happened to another one of my grandmas.

Around 9 or so she knew that I'd go through puberty soon, but didn't really explain any details, and told me I had to be careful because if I fell in love with a boy then I could get pregnant. A boy asked to kiss me soon after and I refused because I thought that would impregnate me. When I figured out sex (rape) is what caused it, I was shocked.

Also around that time my parents were getting a divorce, and she explained that if you don't have sex whenever your husband wants it, they will either lash out and beat you unconcious like what her previous husband did, or they will leave you, like my dad was doing.

When I couldn't put a tampon in because it hurt too badly, I asked her how you can possibly have sex with your husband on a regular basis. She said you just get used to the pain. It turns out I had vaginismus, and I didn't get it resolved until last year at age 27. I had no clue sex and penetration wasn't supposed to hurt, and was supposed to feel good, until I was 20 and talking to a college roommate about it.

I wish my sex ed I had was better in school. It was complete garbage, a abstinence-only, STD shock and horror show. I mean at least I learned a little bit about anatomy and that periods aren't just a biblical curse God placed upon all women because Eve ate the forbidden apple, amongst other horseshit I was meanwhile learning from family and church.