Single guys of /r/askgaybros, how long have you been single and how many dates have you had?

I'm going to hijack this comment because the advice I'd like to give can pretty much apply to everyone that has commented here already. Now you can do what you want with this information, you can ignore it or go with it, doesn't really matter because it may not be for everyone.

If you have a smartphone it is in your best interest to download a dating app. There are plenty of them and even apps for specific dating interests. Dating online may seem stupid, or a "last resort" as some of my friends have said, but it has been the ONLY WAY I have ever gotten a date. I don't go to bars, I didn't (key word) have any gay friends in my hometown or when I moved away for college. When I did move away to college I had made more gay friends through apps then actually had boyfriends. Might be a little fucked up but I am happy with what I got.

When I came out I was a 22 year old virgin, I didn't have a clue on how to date or even know a way to meet guys. One friend told me about okcupid and I immediately signed up. It was really rough at the start because I wasn't sure what would happen if I even went on a date, I got really obsessed with some of the guys I met on there, like middle school bullshit obsessed. But the point is I was talking to people, getting to know them, and finding out ways to be part of the community.

Dating is really what you put into it. If you're fine with being single then be single and date. If you want to find more dates then you need to put yourself out there and advertise that ass because your shining bear in fuzzy armor is just going to come out of the woods and ask you out for a drink. These bears need to be able to find you.

Finally most dates will absolutely suck. It's a hard truth but guys that I've met online didn't always turn out to be the way they described themselves. Most actually are really flakey and didn't show up. Hell even I have flaked out of a date because of depression, schoolwork, or even ending up not wanting to go. DO NOT take this personally. I just think if they really wanted to grab a coffee then they would of, otherwise it's their loss.

TL;DR Download a dating app. You might find someone you're actually interested, might not. Just have fun. Dating is hard, and it sometimes sucks but it was you make of it.

P.s. Don't send any nudes. It will most likely find it way online I have yet to see my junk posted anywhere but you never know.

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