very down topic </3 i am going to severely overshare because the other spaces i have are all connected to this person. about broken online friendships
someone i considered a very close friend just. vanished for a couple of weeks. and ok - real life is a thing and normally i wouldn't bat an eyelash despite it being very off brand from them, because they don't work or study so they literally would spend entire days online. but i had been feeling them weird for a couple of weeks, and pulling away. and at first i thought i was imagining it all (and i'm not very good at understanding social situations; i have autism) so i brushed it off as just my head being weird.
but then this person logs in into the online accounts that we follow each other, post something like i'm vanishing off the internet until september. and doesn't answer my messages (from before they logged on) asking if they are ok/fine.
the thing is - i would, again, understand this being real life things or so. but then.
there is another social network that is very. niche? that i am part of that coincidentally they are as well. there is no way of following or anything of the sorts there, so i just think they forgot they gave me their url there lol a loooooong time ago. i wasn't even visiting their page - i have their real life number for fucks sake. i was respecting their privacy and stuff and would not stalk or seek for them on purpose. i understand the need to get away from online life - but their posts always appear in my home page bc of it being niche + we liking the same stuff + the algorithm thing.
so they have posted there. and some of the people that we are both friends with (and one of them whom i am very close friends currently. we used to be a trio) have interacted with their stuff and they have interacted back.
so the situation is:
a) they posted on all accounts that we are connected that they are taking a break from the internet
b) on the account we are not connected, they are posting normally and talking to friends and mutual friends we have
c) they are ignoring my messages regarding their well being
like i am not an expert on social cues and stuff, but this seems like a clear case of icing someone out.
i'm gonna send them another message (and last one; don't want to be too overbearing) just in case they haven't seen my first one, but holy shit. i just feel like shit? like trash? this is not someone random on the internet that i talked sometimes. we literally would talks nights on end. we had movie nights. we shared stuff about life and family and traumas in general. i've been on the internet for more than 15 years (started real early lol) and i can say with confidence they were one of the only people i considered a true friend.
and the weird thing is: before they vanished they contacted me because i have a career in the field of work that they want to seek, and i gave them a lot of advice regarding an interview they were about to have. anyways. after that conversation they basically vanished. so i def do feel like not only they are icing me out, they waited until they had what they wanted from me to do it.
so yeah. not feeling very great at the moment.