I get what you're saying (and I do agree with you on a general level), but in the most gentle way possible, I think you're projecting your own feelings about this situation (and other people's responses to it, because I know there are people saying what you're responding to) onto OP. I didn't get anything about OP speculating the members actually wanted the comeback cancelled from their original post or their comments and I've reread several times trying to find that interpretation.

OP was only talking about their own feelings of discomfort seeing the members in pain. They didn't say "we need to cancel this comeback because the members are in so much pain", they said "it hurts me to see them in pain so I wish they could have pushed this CB back". (Obviously paraphrasing an entire post here, but OP can correct me if I misrepresented them.)

Their language consistently refers to their own feelings about their perceptions without directly ascribing those feelings to SVT. It's not perfectly worded since it's personal and a response to hurt, but they do acknowledge the possibility that some people like to busy themselves in response to pain, they just find it difficult to watch.

So you're just responding to a statement that's not there, and it ends up coming across as dismissive of OP's feelings. Obviously not your intention! Some people have absolutely responded to this poorly and need to be addressed (where I come from we call them grief vultures), but responding to those people on an unrelated post where OP is seeking reassurance and comfort just isn't the way.

But we must help ourselves first to make sure we ourselves are okay and hope that everyone else will be okay (maybe not now but someday) that’s all that we can do.

This is a good message and I do totally agree. That whole "put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others" thing. All we can do is try. For some people, "trying" is going to be avoiding this comeback's promotions, and that doesn't make them any less of a Carat.