I’m struggling with the fact that my boyfriend won’t come out. I know it’s not about me but we’ve been together for 4 years and we want to start a family soon. However he won’t start one until he’s out and still isn’t making any progress on that front. Any advice on how not to take it personally? Another issue is that we have a significant (not huge just like 12 years) age gap between us. I don’t want to wait around forever and end up being the one who does all the kid stuff as he approaches middle age and has less energy. Any tips on how to encourage him without pressuring, or how to stop taking it personally are appreciated :,)