what would i ask the barber to get a cut like this?

For most barbers it'll just be easier to just show the photos rather than try and explain exactly what you want. You'll want them to be a higher resolution than the ones here, but get photos of the front, sides, back and maybe the top if possible that best represent what you want.

Also if its your first time getting your hair cut in a certain style then I think its worth booking in with a "fancier" barber who will do a 10-15 minute consultation before the haircut and go slow with it if you don't mind spending the extra money, rather than going to a chain store that gets lots of customers and might rush you a bit. Then take photos of your hair after the cut and use it as reference photos when you go back to a normal barber for maintenance cuts

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