Is your emotional issue the fact that this LDR is not going to materialise into a long term real thing? Is that why you don’t want to take it to the next level and connect the emotions to physical intimacy? If so, then you can just state it clearly for him. His pov is more about enjoying what you two share at the moment, without stressing about the uncertain future.. while still being aware of the reality of it all. Two different attitudes towards the situation, none of them are wrong, but just incompatible. I think he wanted some clarity from you and he was mindful of pacing himself with you. From your end, I would just say - don’t do anything you’re not yet comfortable with and be outright with it. You seem to