I’m not sure if there is a language barrier here. I said “interact” which could include “saying hello to someone at the grocery store” or taking your dad out to dinner sometimes. That is what I was picturing, NOT romantic or sexual interaction.

I definitely agree that wanting any romantic or sexual interaction with men would make you NOT a lesbian. That’s obvious.

A lesbian is an adult human female who is only romantically and sexually attracted to women. We agree on that I think, and I just wanted to make it clear.

To be clear, I am more on the wavelength you are where I do not like to interact with any men.

Your statement that someone isn’t really a separatist if she does x is too black and white. One reason I loved the book is that it did not reduce separatism to either/or or a rigid set of rules.

This is a similar point to Marilyn Frye’s essay about how separatism is a continuum/spectrumand all feminists are doing separatism to a degree. That is a must read if you have not read that one yet.