I understand all the comments and appreciate all the help you guys are giving me no English is my 3rd language and i'm usually very emotionally stable. I come from a family where a BJ is a big deal and its not the fact of the BJ it self i got passed it and we moved on the problem was when she started talking to him an i'm not sure i can trust her i've never touched her, hit her and most of the time i keep it to myself this whole thing is out of control and it makes me mad that i lose my shit over some stupid thing. and after thinking about it a lot it's about trust. we had an agreement before we got in to a serious relationship that she broke. and since its a old crush i wasn't sure if there was still something going on. I know i'm wrong on many things and i know you guys judge fast since you cant really know anyone over a simple text but i've been through a lot with this girl and i do love her life was great even with the old BJ and all the problem was when she broke the agreement. i spoke to her a few time that it made me unconformable i knew it wasn't my business to tell her who she can and can't talk to and i never told her she cant talk to him but when she wanted to go eat and meet up. i've been told that its never just a friendly chat.

Before this whole story everything was great i'm not a violent person and i hate confrontation i hate issues i just want people to be happy. most of the things i do every day, is simply to get a smile on someone face.

her parents do like me and i never talked to her parents they always initiated the conversations because what happened to her and her past is non of my business and i even had to sit there and listen to her father tell me how a great guy he is and that i should be jealous and i would just say and leave.