Listen - I don't know why this has to be your issue. Im going to be honest...Im an asshole. I have no business being on a dating site. Every couple weeks I sign up, talk to a few nice guys then panic and delete.

My last bf who I thought was the one (we were planning a family FFS) was banging his co-worker and I found her at the house. I keep thinking I'm ready in some capacity - to get laid, to go on a date, to just browse...who knows.

I meet really nice men like you and then panic.

I don't know why we are dissecting your behavior. You did nothing wrong.

She's probably a me. She's probably lying to herself telling herself she's ready to get out there and she just isn't. She probably goes a good week without crying over her asshole ex and feels falsely empowered and maybe a little sexy from the stress weight she lost and just wants to be close to someone again, so she's on the hunt then panics and breaks down crying and doesn't log back in for a day or two because the thought of touching a stranger makes her sick.

Most the people on these things are broken and lonely and trying to get through another miserable day of isolation and heartbreak and financial ruins from covid.

You dodged a bullet. Anyone who likes a power outage is clearly a liar or psycho.