Why is being honest so difficult for people?

My sister has used me and lied our entire life. I didn't know. I gave her money, I cared for her kids, and she blasted my life and the lives of my children over the web. I almost died, multiple times, and I still would forgive her.

My family and extended family chose her over me. A person who lies, abuses children and animals and has never done a kind thing for anyone. It shouldn't be a surprise though, her oldest son spoke out about her once. She kicked him out when he was in 12th. I couldn't help him or my nephews but am in a position to one day be able to should the need arise.

She once told me not to keep trying so hard to be liked. I wasn't trying, I was being there as a sister and family member should.

Her youngest son's school called me a few years back to tell me they were calling CPS, to remove her children for over $1,000 in unpaid lunches. I paid the bill. I talked them down. That was when things got really ugly. She targeted me so much more. I still can't understand why.

So yes, I am angry. I am hurt. My son now refers to her as Mom.

Thank you for listening. And to answer your question about honesty? For some people, it comes naturally. For others, it is a limerick.

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