I’m still processing our mutual breakup. It was amicable in every way. It still hits me on random days when I think about texting her in the morning, talking on long drives, sexting on weekends, joking, laughing, getting hot and bothered in advance of another meetup. Yeah, it’s a challenge to go from all that to zero. Especially when you can’t really talk to anyone about it.

One thing I focus on is how I’m working on my marriage (for real), and not spending so much effort on OPSEC (and the rest of my time thinking about how to get back to my AP). The trade-off is less fun and fulfillment, but much less stress for a lot of reasons.

I can’t imagine what a combative, nasty breakup would feel like—I feel bad for those people. It’s like adding insult to injury.