Bros not into the hookup culture: how's it going?

I am pretty picky AND also a little paranoid about STDs so if I am enthusiastic about having sex with you once, I probably would enjoy it and want it consistently. I've had a few hook ups with people in my greater friend group but I end up getting bummed about it especially when it only happens once or twice and its like nothing happened after that. I can't switch hats that easily. I only will do blowjobs with hook ups like that though and I don't do it often because it's extremely empty.

I also was exclusively hooking up with a guy from school I had a thing with for a semester, and we were hooking up like 4 nights a week and having sleepovers and he introduced me to some of his friends, invited me to some of his productions. I am really into dating so I've been annoyed I can't find that/haven't found that in a while. After 3 or so months of hooking up, the guy kind of freaked out because he's inexperienced and was a 19 yo underclassman and we are in completely different friend groups with completely different interests and so it felt like we had nothing in common, but then felt really bad for being immature and wanted to be a thing again this semester. He started asking me on real dates and asking "what we were going to be this semester again because he really likes me." Told him I'm looking for more of an emotional real connection. He said you don't have that with me? I said no... and he said he would try being boyfriends. But he was too immature to teach and deal with so I broke it off once and for all (consistent hook ups can get messy).

Also had a consistent friends with benefits that I met in a school club last year...we'd have sex after every club meeting for a semester.

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