I think the latter point you made about there being no characteristic that all transwomen have is a good one.

The whole argument that trans people make as I understand it isn't that not dating trans people is transphobic. It's that eliminating trans people because they're trans is transphobic. You're allowed to have preferences, if you don't like someone's face, or weight, or height, or genitals that's okay. Physical attraction is based on the body you're looking at and if you don't find me attractive I frankly don't want to date you either.

But there are a few valid points that trans people make when it comes to dating that were​ getting criticism on that la post. I don't think it's necessarily wrong to encourage people to evaluate their preferences and see if they think that it's valid or not.

I think for a lot of trans people, in the process of transitioning we come to the conclusion that someones genitals are not the most important thing about them and we tend to have an easier time excluding them from our dating selection process. I initially didn't want to date another trans woman but I questioned this and decided if seemed a little hypocritical and I'd give people a chance to see how things went and I'm happy I did because my girlfriend who is trans is fucking awesome and I couldn't be happier.

Another point that bothered me was the list of gotchas in the original post, specifically the "but what if she had a neovagina". I mean if your rejection of them has nothing to do with their genitals then say that, but if you're eliminating then because you think their vagina isn't attractive enough it makes me think something else is probably going on. Maybe I'd have to see the vagina worthy of rejection to understand but seriously I doubt it could be so repulsive to justify rejection on it's own.