I could not have read this at a better time. My alcoholic father is currently in jail in another state (DUI, failure to appear in court, etc.). He was kicked out of his girlfriends house a year ago and lost EVERYTHING. (She is an addict and has a restraining order against him.) He refuses to move closer where my sister and I could help.

Because he’s in jail, I’ve been able to communicate with a sober and less angry and irrational man. We’ve been trying to get him an ID, social security/bank account, and housing through the VA. He has a court date in two weeks. If nothing is in place by the that time, I fear they will let him out and the cycle will start all over again. Late night drunken calls asking for money, etc.

Now that it’s winter, it’s even more urgent that he has a place to stay. I have considered flying out to try and help but I’m worried that he will sabotage any efforts I make. I don’t have much money to begin with, but a trip would leave me with nothing left. It’s just all so overwhelming, and my depression and anxiety are through the roof. I know that I’m not responsible for his decisions, but I can’t help but keep coming back to the guilt of not doing more. Every waking hour I worry about him. I have horrible nightmares every night that wake me up.