this is something i think about a lot, i believe my dad suppresses it a lot as well. only time he ever stopped drinking was when on probation and being tested. he’s very stubborn and ... ig “old fashioned” when it comes to mental health he has a kind of toxic pull yourself up my your bootstraps mindset which also involves a lot of victim blaming. he is very very defensive and bringing up the laundry list with him would end badly for one or both of us in all possible scenarios (for example whether he is drinking or not) so it’s not worth it. im 20 years old and don’t have the time or energy to argue with someone who has been making the same choices almost every day for right under 40 years, and I also choose not too, to protect myself. If your situation is different, I think it could be beautiful for you connect her to resources that could allow her to join you in healing. i hope that is the case and wish you the best of luck :) <3