Yeah, well his parents/family are better off than most South Africans. He still lives with his parents and that causes me some problems, as I live alone and have done since I was 18 and our mindsets about money, etc are just totally different. He doesn't work, can't support me, and wants to have a baby. It just causes massive stress. I spent thousands going to see him and spending food on him, etc (he promised to pay for my food etc when I went there after my expensive plane ticket.. and then I actually ended up footing the bill for him everywhere we went instead). I just don't even trust him at this point. I feel really alone. I keep thinking maybe I should try to hold onto this relationship, but he isn't meeting my needs emotionally or really in any area. And I'm afraid I'm running out of time to have kids and all that because I don't know how long it will take to meet someone else, etc if this doesn't work out. But he wants me to move there and I don't think he understands what that means for me or the magnitude of that. I have no one I can talk to about this. Anyone that I know here thinks it's just insane and can't fathom it, so I don't talk about it.

If I go back to the UK, I can stay for 6 months and then I'm out. I don't have any special skills that would get me a working visa. I would have to get in through marriage... or do grad school there, but I'm not really that interested in grad school.