I have a weird etiquette question. So I'm going to wedding of a friend this weekend. They live across the country but we went to high school together and they're having the wedding in our hometown. I last saw him and his wife-to-be back over the winter--I was probably pregnant at that point but didn't know yet and we don't like, keep in close touch, just have drinks when we're in the same area. I never announced my pregnancy on social media so as far as I know they don't know that I'm pregnant. I meant to shoot off a text at some point sharing the good news but just never did and now the wedding is tomorrow and I'm having major anxiety about just... showing up all pregnant. I'm worried about giving off the impression of "stealing thunder" even though that is definitely not my goal.

Part of me thinks I should just text him and be like "oh by the way! Just didn't want it to be a shock when I see you!" and the other part of me is like "he is getting married tomorrow and is probably super busy, leave him alone". I don't think it really matters, it's looking like it's going the be a sweet, casual wedding (actually just a reception, they're marrying privately beforehand) and our friend groups don't overlap that much so I don't think I'll know many other people there. Am I overthinking this? What do you guys think I should do?