I agree mono is a non-rational preference and I'm not slagging it off as that. I'm just saying, it's not the only one, and to have a different preference is valid too. I'd be a quiet lurker too if this sub didn't have such a hard-on against things I value, and didn't continually mischaracterise and invalidate my perfectly reasonable views.

What are you talking about?

Do you think that r/polyamory or r/non-monogamy or for that matter r/relationshipanarchy(one of the most toxic sub on reddit in my opinion) don't have hard-on against things I value?

They talk bad about monogamy all the time.

They pathologize monogamous people all the time.

They are not kind,empathic, loving or open-minded either

This is reddit.

This is people holding strong to their beliefs.

A lot of non-monogamous folks were the most judgemental people I have ever meet.

But do I think this is all of them? Nope.

Some people here hold strong opinion about non-monogamy and monogamy too and That's human nature

I must say this :

All the people here started talking to you in good faith and things always get downhill because even if you preach for "listening to different perspective" you don't listen yourself.

You are vindicative.

There is always some cognitive dissonance in your message.

When someone pickup parts of your message and try discuss that with you?

You always, always comeback with "It's not what I mean. You don't understand me" when a lot of the time the person did understand but you just don't like their answer.

They don't understand you?

When your message is in English and only need basic understanding?

I didn't understand your message Norfy? Lol

I didn't get you nor your message?

I have read your message again and again and I did understood you.

It's the morning now and I think that my reply was appropriate and I understood exactly what you meant.

You just didn't agree with my message :D

Beginning with "monogamy is all about sex" and retracting yourself :)

But we agree on one thing you and me : " All relationships style are valid" and that's the most important message.

One year ago I have read all of your discussions with Snack. You wanted a rational view for monogamy and his answers were anyways "The only relational view for monogamy is someone wanting monogamy" and he is right.

A lot times Norfy you test people's patience here. And a lot of people never ever injured you. They just disagree with some of your views and downvote you.

I think some people downvoting your postive message are wrong. Really wrong.

They don't really like you

You don't agree with most people's views here and a lot of people here don't agree with your views.

But understand that they don't make poly people lose their jobs or custody of their child. They don't go around bullying poly people. They don't go around attacking poly people.

They were not the ones who made your friends lose their jobs(and I find that fact that your friends losing their jobs because they are poly disturbing btw).

That's my message.