Yea but meeting new people is kinda difficult. Thats why I kind of want to iron this thing out. Its not impossible but why throw away a network that is already there. It sounds superficial but is a consideration. I honestly would like her to just talk to me. Even though I know she has been hiding stuff the whole relationship so isn't anything new. If this was the case though then I feel like I could move on easier.

Putting a decision in someone else's hands like that is pretty much completely a recipe for disaster but still. Getting to see them express it for themselves would help me know where this is coming from.

It honestly gets to a crazy point that I can't tell if my brother did something in this too. Safe to say I am stung by it. What if I banged his wife while they were dating?? Then they wouldn't be together probably.

Its safe to say the brother thing prob didn't happen. But the friend thing I also question. And not getting a clear answer makes me want to say "no" to them too without a clear answer, that I know they won't give.

So honestly I may just need to not be friends with these people but would be under any other circumstance. If everyone is doing this too and I just haven't been exposed to this side of life then I would want to explore it. It never seems like a good time to have these conversations. If this is completely normal then I would be there 100%.

It does sound like there are already negotiations on the table and if friends are really offering to make it up then I would consider for sure. I really like these guys It just stung cause I was ignorant to everything for so long. But once again, if there are alternative conversations to be had then that would be better for sure.