Ah so let me get this straight. You’re tell me that people can’t control how they internally react to the external reality?

So if I were to get laid off of from work then I have no choice in how I feel about that? I can’t choose how I react to that?

So if my significant other were to break up with me, according to you, I have no choice in how I think or feel about that situation?

https://www.forbes.com/sites/startswithabang/2020/05/26/observing-the-universe-really-does-change-the-outcome-and-this-experiment-shows-how/?sh=5aa2771667af

If you’d like I can find numerous examples in historical and modern philosophy that disagree with your claims.