And all of it could be prevented by not have children. Its just so simple to calculate: do you have enough money to pay for yourself, your wife, your child. If not. That having children would be a traumatic experience not only for you but also for your wife and your child. I don't understand how people thinking "i have job and barely can feed myself. But fuck it, somehow everything would be fine. Wife! Lets have kids! Im ready!". Your "mental ready" means shit (nothing) if you cant afford a child from the begging. Child doesnt ask you to get in this world. It cant say "yes mommy and daddy im fucking ready". Its you decision as a parent. And its you responsibility.

I hate parents that made a baby and as soon they can understand them. Parents starting some shit like: "if you live under my roof" - of course child live under your roof. You are his parents where else should they live dummy?! Or "you are already 10. You can try to find a job". You made a child or another slave for corporations?! If second one than you should think twice before having baby. Its doesnt mean that your child should be just a plant in you house till the end of your life. But at list give them enough money and time to find themselves in this insane life.